Spark Meaningful Family Conversations During the Holidays

Spark Meaningful Family Conversations During the Holidays

  • 11.18.20
  • Family & Life Events
  • Article

Find the right words to connect with loved ones and capture their stories.

As you gather with loved ones for the holidays – whether in person or virtually – think about preserving their memories and life lessons through oral histories. Here we’ve gathered some questions that can lead to meaningful conversations about family and values, along with tips to get you started.

8 questions to ask your loved ones

  1. What’s your favorite place to visit in the world?
  2. Are there any funny stories you want to tell me about?
  3. What’s been the happiest moment of your life?
  4. What are the most important life lessons you’ve learned?
  5. What should I know about our family’s medical history that could affect my health?
  6. Tell me about some traditions that have been passed down through our family. When and how did they get started?
  7. How would you like to be remembered?
  8. Is there anything you’ve always wanted to tell me but never have?

Setting the stage for a life story

The questions above can help inspire conversation even in an informal setting – but consider taking things a step further by preserving those memories via audio or video.

If your family member is willing, decide whether you’d like to conduct your interview one-on-one or in a group setting. Then, arrange a time and place (or schedule a virtual meeting) and select questions that will get your loved one talking.

Once you’ve chosen your questions and you’re in a quiet and comfortable location, begin your recording. Start by stating the date and the name of the person you’re interviewing. Then, ask a few lighthearted questions to break the ice.

If your interviewee isn’t exactly chatty, you might need some cues to get the conversation going. You can break out old family photo albums that might spark memories. Or make it a game: you can buy card decks with questions to ask family members and grandparents, or you can use an app like Conversation Starters.

Sharing treasured moments

Once you’ve captured the interview, ask whether you may share it with other members of your family such as children or grandchildren. You might even consider using StoryCorps, an app that allows you to upload your recording to their archive at the Library of Congress, which is full of interviews about the lives of everyday people.

With a little effort, you can turn the stories of the people in your life into treasured keepsakes – portable insight that can be passed along from generation to generation. “If we take the time to listen, we’ll find wisdom, wonder and poetry in the lives and stories of the people all around us,” says StoryCorps founder David Isay. “We all want to know our lives have mattered and we won’t ever be forgotten.”

Next steps

  • After these conversations, talk with your advisor about how you can incorporate your family values into your financial plan.
  • If these family conversations get you thinking about your estate and legacy planning, follow up with your advisor to take action in a coordinated way.
  • Consider including your advisor in your next family meeting as a neutral third party who can facilitate a discussion about family legacy or charitable giving.


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